At each grade level during a child’s academic development, new struggles and challenges must be confronted. Specifically, in the public high school years, many teens struggle to stay organized, facing difficulty managing their assignments and agendas. The high school years open students to far more freedoms, social opportunities, new technologies
, and countless distractions. Subsequently, many teens simply cannot seem to figure out how to manage all of their obligations.
Being organized is an important skill that will help your teen as he or she grows into an adult. Research shows that organized students develop habits that will help them perform better in school, and in the long-term, their professional and adult life. Thankfully, there are several ways parents
can continue to guide their teenage children towards greater organization and self-management.
Secrets to Teenage Organization
One of the main reasons many parents struggle to guide their teenager children towards organization is due to the common teenage desire for freedom from their parents. As teens encounter more privileges and responsibilities, they tend to want to break free from the parental nest.
During this period of unrest and self-discovery, teens quickly feel overwhelmed and disorganized. As teens tend to desire more freedom and self-control, parents are often pushed away as they try to intervene. Despite this power struggle, parents can still step in to offer guidance and support.
Set the Boundaries
First and foremost, if your teen is among the many who desire to assert their independence, you must first set and explain clear boundaries and expectations.
For example, if you are trying to help your teenage son or daughter plan out their schedule
and they refuse your assistance, then clearly explain to them the consequences for any missteps that may occur. Specifically, if your teen wants to prove that he can manage all of his work and sports obligations
without your help, clearly explain what the consequence will be if he falls behind on his responsibilities. This consequence can be taking away his computer access for a certain period of time, requiring your child to write all plans on a family calendar, and so forth.
If your teens truly feel they can handle the responsibilities, then allow them to try. However, be sure you have a backup plan and clear expectations before they head into their daily plans without your guidance.
Set up an Agenda
If your teens struggle or fail to stay organized without your help, then begin to teach them proper habits of organization by requiring that they fill out an agenda or planner each day. Begin by teaching them how to fill out their agenda with the most important dates and obligations. List all sports games, practices, recitals, club meetings
, and other activities that your son or daughter is required to attend. Next, have your son or daughter write down any big events or appointments.
Students should use this same planner for homework as well. To teach your son or daughter how to keep track and monitor his or her class work assignments, require that your child fills out all homework responsibilities for each class every day. If your son or daughter fails to do this consistently, try emailing his or her teachers
. Oftentimes, teachers will sign and approve students’ planners and agendas to ensure that students wrote down all of the homework instructions correctly. If your son or daughter fails to meet your homework planning expectations, be sure to follow up with a clear consequence for their missteps.
Adding to homework
organization, have your son or daughter find out if any of their teachers post homework and assignment information online. Many teachers are helping students to stay organized and on-track by posting all assignments and upcoming announcements to a classroom website. If this is available for your son or daughter, allocate a time each day where you can both look at his or her class homework sites together. By doing this regularly, your teen will learn patterns of organization and routine.
Establish Progress Checks
As your teen adheres to the organization requirements, including keeping a calendar and organizing necessary dates and assignments, continue to monitor your teen’s progress by establishing regular check-ups. Set up a day of the week or a specific time each day to make sure your teenager’s school work, agenda, and other materials are organized as you have explained and required.
Regular progress checks help to hold your teen accountable; similarly, check-ups help teens to stay on track with the established guidelines. As your teen improves his or her organization skills, you can gradually reduce the frequency of your progress checks. You can even begin to “reward” your teen as he or she demonstrates responsibility and organization. For example, after showing a commitment to organization for an entire semester, you can extend his or her curfew by 30 minutes on Friday or Saturday evenings.
Helping your child develop organizational skills will not only pay off with a higher GPA, but build long-term skills that will help your teenager excel in life.