Bullying, Name Calling, and Put Downs - Tips for Parents
- Good vs. bad – Children may not always be aware of what violates school safety policies. Teaching children to recognize what is acceptable and not acceptable is imperative to ensure that they don’t behave in an unacceptable manner and that they refuse to tolerate such behavior from others. Hitting, punching, kicking, teasing, name-calling, racial slurs, rumors, threats, exclusion, harassment, and intimidation are all examples of unacceptable behavior.
- Dare to be different – Children often participate in bullying and other violent activities because they are pressured to do so in order to participate in a particular crowd. Teaching children to resist peer pressure that draws them into arguments and conflict goes a long way toward keeping children safe. And children who speak out against violence and model positive behavior have the potential to motivate the bully to change.
- Be a tattle tale – It is, unfortunately, not cool to report the undesirable activity of one’s peers to authorities. Yet, school safety depends on the willingness of everyone, including students, to refuse to accept behavior that risks the safety of others. For this reason, children should be taught to report the bad behavior of their fellow students.
- Communication – Adults often remain out of the loop when children are planning some sort of altercation. Because of this, school administrators must take all threats of violence seriously. But, for the most part, children know that violence is possible before it even happens. When children and adults work together, schools are safer. Children need to be encouraged to speak with an adult – parent, teacher, or administrator – when they’ve heard of a potential conflict. And, adults need to be willing to listen.
- Self-esteem – Children who have high self-esteem are less likely to become victims of school violence than children who have low self-esteem. Parents and administrators must ensure that children are given opportunities to participate in esteem-raising activities such as sports, clubs, and music and that they are encouraged to do so. It is also important to talk to children about confidence and help them develop socially so that they don’t become targets.
- The proactive parent – All parents want to make sure that their child does not become a victim. Yet, parents are not always aware of what they can do to advocate school safety. Most schools have safety programs and a written policy against bullying and violence. Parents should be encouraged to contact their child’s school and find out more about these programs and policies and they should be informed as to what resources are available for children who become victims. Informed parents are the best advocates for their children.
This video offers an overview of bullying.
Although, on the whole, schools remain safe places for students to learn, there is no substitute for informed parents and children. Parents are one of the most important factors in determining school safety. Parents who actively communicate with their children about school safety and who actively promote good behavior are parents who are prepared and aware. Parents can try role-playing with their children to teach them how to behave around the school bully or a potentially violent situation. Parents can also encourage supportive friendships and esteem-building pursuits, both inside and outside of school, to help their children remain safe. The role that parents play in school safety can’t be emphasized enough and continues to be the driving force in keeping children safe.
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